Every bride-to-be must have a wedding dream she has been dreaming of. Yes, we all know that it is only once in a lifetime. But we also have to know that we can't always get what we want. I love wedding-things and because I have experienced this roller-coaster-wedding preparation, I'm happy to share with you how to overcome our fears and stress during the preparation.
So here I would like to share some tips how to manage ourselves while preparing our big day.
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Wedding is just one day, marriage is for the rest of our lives
I think the more important is to prepare how you and your life-partner-to-be are going to love after you say "I Do". I know it's hard not to think about the wedding, but I suggest you to spend some quality time with your partner, discuss some important things such as how you will live, how you will share your money, what your partner expect from you on the marriage life, or how many children you are planning to have. You can also spend time by watching movies or anything you like to do together. Enjoy your time with each other and with the family as well.
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Know your wants and your budget
Sometimes we don't really know what we want. At some point we just look at someone's wedding and think "oh I want this and that" meanwhile you don't really mean it or if I could say it's just our ego. We have to limit our desire and make sure that it is something we really need. So we can save the budget as well. You can do the budgeting first by making a list of vendors that will be needed in your wedding day (venue, photo, etc) and the estimated money you are willing to spend for the vendor. After that, you can start looking at the portfolio of the vendors you are interested at and start communicating with the vendors. You can ask them their price, how they have been doing, or just feel if you can chit chat and work well with them. If you feel uncomfortable with them or their price is way to far from you budget, just stop and find another vendor or this will make you regret. Remember to always find a comparison! This can help you from spending too much money, unless you have an unlimited money to spend in one day.
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Make a timeline and to do list
I am a very organized person and I think it helps a lot during my wedding preparation. After you know what you want and your budget, start making a timeline so you don't have to be in a rush. You can start planning what are the goals of every month, like I will make a deal with XX on January, YY in February, and do so until you reach your big day. Seriously, this can help you to calm down while your big day is approaching because you know everything is handled already!
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Be patient and ask for some help
In my opinion, the intention of the wedding is to share our joy with others. Although we will be the King and Queen of the day, still, we can't be selfish. We have to think about our guest : will they enjoy the food, the ambience, the songs, the decoration, etc? Many people will give comments and this can bring confusion to you. But the thing is you have to be patient and listen to other's opinion. If you feel that you can't help it anymore, never hesitate to find helps from either the wedding organizer, family, bridesmaids, or anyone you can trust. Don't do everything by yourself and be a stressful bride (or even worse like being a bridezilla). As a bride, we have to stay happy and smile a lot to face our big day 😊😊😊
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Pray and surrender
The most important thing is to pray and to surrender. As the Bible says, "a man's heart plans his way, but The Lord directs his steps" (Proverbs 16:9). We can arrange everything, but in the end it is God's will that is done.
Well, that's all I can share. Good luck to all of you who are preparing the wedding! 😆
Wedding is just one day, marriage is for the rest of our lives
I think the more important is to prepare how you and your life-partner-to-be are going to love after you say "I Do". I know it's hard not to think about the wedding, but I suggest you to spend some quality time with your partner, discuss some important things such as how you will live, how you will share your money, what your partner expect from you on the marriage life, or how many children you are planning to have. You can also spend time by watching movies or anything you like to do together. Enjoy your time with each other and with the family as well.
Know your wants and your budget
Sometimes we don't really know what we want. At some point we just look at someone's wedding and think "oh I want this and that" meanwhile you don't really mean it or if I could say it's just our ego. We have to limit our desire and make sure that it is something we really need. So we can save the budget as well. You can do the budgeting first by making a list of vendors that will be needed in your wedding day (venue, photo, etc) and the estimated money you are willing to spend for the vendor. After that, you can start looking at the portfolio of the vendors you are interested at and start communicating with the vendors. You can ask them their price, how they have been doing, or just feel if you can chit chat and work well with them. If you feel uncomfortable with them or their price is way to far from you budget, just stop and find another vendor or this will make you regret. Remember to always find a comparison! This can help you from spending too much money, unless you have an unlimited money to spend in one day.
Sometimes we don't really know what we want. At some point we just look at someone's wedding and think "oh I want this and that" meanwhile you don't really mean it or if I could say it's just our ego. We have to limit our desire and make sure that it is something we really need. So we can save the budget as well. You can do the budgeting first by making a list of vendors that will be needed in your wedding day (venue, photo, etc) and the estimated money you are willing to spend for the vendor. After that, you can start looking at the portfolio of the vendors you are interested at and start communicating with the vendors. You can ask them their price, how they have been doing, or just feel if you can chit chat and work well with them. If you feel uncomfortable with them or their price is way to far from you budget, just stop and find another vendor or this will make you regret. Remember to always find a comparison! This can help you from spending too much money, unless you have an unlimited money to spend in one day.
Make a timeline and to do list
I am a very organized person and I think it helps a lot during my wedding preparation. After you know what you want and your budget, start making a timeline so you don't have to be in a rush. You can start planning what are the goals of every month, like I will make a deal with XX on January, YY in February, and do so until you reach your big day. Seriously, this can help you to calm down while your big day is approaching because you know everything is handled already!
I am a very organized person and I think it helps a lot during my wedding preparation. After you know what you want and your budget, start making a timeline so you don't have to be in a rush. You can start planning what are the goals of every month, like I will make a deal with XX on January, YY in February, and do so until you reach your big day. Seriously, this can help you to calm down while your big day is approaching because you know everything is handled already!
Be patient and ask for some help
In my opinion, the intention of the wedding is to share our joy with others. Although we will be the King and Queen of the day, still, we can't be selfish. We have to think about our guest : will they enjoy the food, the ambience, the songs, the decoration, etc? Many people will give comments and this can bring confusion to you. But the thing is you have to be patient and listen to other's opinion. If you feel that you can't help it anymore, never hesitate to find helps from either the wedding organizer, family, bridesmaids, or anyone you can trust. Don't do everything by yourself and be a stressful bride (or even worse like being a bridezilla). As a bride, we have to stay happy and smile a lot to face our big day 😊😊😊
In my opinion, the intention of the wedding is to share our joy with others. Although we will be the King and Queen of the day, still, we can't be selfish. We have to think about our guest : will they enjoy the food, the ambience, the songs, the decoration, etc? Many people will give comments and this can bring confusion to you. But the thing is you have to be patient and listen to other's opinion. If you feel that you can't help it anymore, never hesitate to find helps from either the wedding organizer, family, bridesmaids, or anyone you can trust. Don't do everything by yourself and be a stressful bride (or even worse like being a bridezilla). As a bride, we have to stay happy and smile a lot to face our big day 😊😊😊
Pray and surrender
The most important thing is to pray and to surrender. As the Bible says, "a man's heart plans his way, but The Lord directs his steps" (Proverbs 16:9). We can arrange everything, but in the end it is God's will that is done.
The most important thing is to pray and to surrender. As the Bible says, "a man's heart plans his way, but The Lord directs his steps" (Proverbs 16:9). We can arrange everything, but in the end it is God's will that is done.
